Yesterday my coworkers redecorated my office. Pictures in this blog entry are photos of their work. Funnily enough, I felt myself quite appreciative of their act of vandalism. 
Today is my 40th birthday. Like most other days, I started by taking the air the dog and doing a To-Do list. Still, today’s list has a particular item:
- Resolve whether to have a mid-life crisis or not.
I’ll concede I am not all thrilled about being 40. It doesn’t appear that long ago that 40 appeared far aside. Nowadays that it’s hither, I see that it’s not what I required. I guessed my life at 40 would be dissimilar.
Many who cognise me would affirm that I have nothing to sound off roughly. And they would be right. My life has been filled with blessings of all kinds, for which I am truly grateful. I am a written author. Most would see me financially successful. I am in a career where I love my work.
But all the same…
As the honest-to-goodness supposing moves, nobody lies on their deathbed liking they had passed more time at the office.
Like most everybody else, when I was 30 I bet in front ten years and shaped a picture in my mind. My life today doesn’t jibe that picture very easily. Examples:
- I thought by nowadays I would be more substantial in the quality of my relationships with my loved ones and in the practice of my faith.
- I thought by nowadays I would be a better guitar player.
- There’s a mussy pile in my study that has been in that location for ten years. (Yes, we went six years ago. The heap went besides.) I opined it would be stript up by at present.
- I e’er taken over that by 40 I would have picked up to work on a regular basis and terminate feeding junk food.
I move could on. And on. But you catch the idea.
I am allured to entertain my regrets, the places where I had a untimely turn, the places where I would have done a saucy choice if I cognised so what I cognise at present.
But this hale line of thinking doesn’t seem at all contributive to well genial health, indeed today I will prefer to focus on two things which appear more constructive:
1. Tapestry
One of my favourite Star Trek episodes is called up Tapestry. It is the story of someone consecrated a chance to re-experience a polar moment in his youth so that he can keep off doing the inexpedient choice he did the first time. But it sprains out that his foolhardy moment was a decisive ingredient in his late successes.
Today I prompt myself that there are no more do-overs, and I’m not sure I would desire one anyhow. For every mistake I have done, there were disconfirming consequences and convinced lessons. I can’t require to keep off the former and maintain the latter. They descend in concert as an inseparable package.
2. Life Calculus.
Backward in 2003 I indited an article sent for Career Calculus. In a nutshell, it alleges that at any contributed moment in your career, what you cognize is far less authoritative than whether you are geting a line.
Today I cue myself that the same principle applies in life. I am convinced in my first derivative. Whatever I am today, I intend I will be a best person tomorrow.
Indeed if I’m withal blogging when I’m 50, I ask I will be capable to cover progress on some of the items remarked supra.
And simply to be unmortgaged, if that heap of junk on the floor of my study is however in that respect, it will be bigger than it is at present, and I contrive to cover that as progress.
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